Don’t be this guy…

This is Kevin Samuels in 2009.

This is Kevin Samuels today… a self-labeled relationship expert and luxury lifestyle guru… and a whole ass clown. A whole one. Red nose and all.

There is nothing cute about him… yesterday or today. Let’s keep this in mind.

I’m sure we have all heard this rant to the woman who called into his podcast saying she wanted a man making six figures because she was a successful woman. He went on to roast her about being old, average looking, with a 13 year old, saying no high earning man… which coincidently makes him above average… wants an average woman and unless she was willing to date an average man, she would “die alone!” I listened and I wanted to fight him in his face for her.

Look… Kevin Samuels has no authority to talk about a woman’s looks or what above average men like… scroll up, look at that picture again. If he can be “honest” with old girl, we can be honest with him. But first let me just say this. Six figures is not billionaire status, be clear. Most of the men and women I know make six figures, and most of the men I know are not fruity pie ass dudes like he is either. These men love the gamut of women… because they are different men with different preferences. Some of them like curvy women, others like athletic women, some like em short others tall, some like em a bit younger or a bit older… there is no standard woman in terms of attractiveness or desire.

Furthermore, a woman is entitled to whatever standards she sets for herself, and reserves the right to bend and change those as she moves through the world… but on her own terms. Those preferences we hold closest on to, other than basic character traits, which don’t define someone as an emotional, mental, or spiritual being, but instead define them by their aesthetic or physical shell most likely lead us to miss out on good men or women. But we still have a right to our preference and standards. Men and women. There are very few things a man wants more than a woman, and his money and clothes and home and car are all objects of security meant to attract women. So yes, women, across the board, are attracted to stability and security. That shouldn’t change because of where some clown believes she falls on the looks rating scale. But then too, men who are married tend to be more successful and more wealthy. A man who findeth a woman findeth a good thing says the Lord.

I saw many posts saying there was truth to what he said… mainly by men. Be better than him, please. Don’t co-sign this wack ass insecure, closet homosexual (yes I said it and I’ll shortly tell you why), stupid shit. First of all, rating women on some scale is played out… unless you want to be rated on the length of your penis, the girth of your wallet, and the size of your credit score. Those things define a good man just as much as a woman’s looks alone define a good woman. Sure… we should all be attracted to our mate. But what that looks like is different for all of us and not based on some ratings scale from eighth grade. A man who comes into a woman’s life should be ready to provide and protect. A woman should come ready to provide peace and refuge. That doesn’t mean he needs to be a billionaire, but he should be stable. That doesn’t mean she needs to be a supermodel, but she should be her best. Stellar looks are icing on the cake… but the cake can stand alone.

Insecurity is a mofo. It will lead you to break down other people to their lowest common denominator just to make yourself look good… but it’s not long lasting. It doesn’t matter how far you’ll go to dead someone else’s shine to shine brighter, your shit will stay dim. You see only those of us that are good to each other ever truly become stars. This guy is posed up on Instagram and posting YouTube videos like he’s some sort of guru, and no one ever heard of this clown until World Star Hip Hop posted his rant. The same sight that posts NSFW photos of reality stars is what catapulted this fool to internet stardom… and we’ll forget about him in a few weeks. But that woman he spoke disrespectfully to will remember being put down and having it broadcast across the net, forever.

But my bet is that Kevin Samuels, despite claiming to have to fight young women off with a stick, doesn’t get a stiff stick from women. His shtick is too familiar. There is a whole subculture in Atlanta where gay men marry and date young, attractive, childless, and connected women so they can rise up the corporate ladder and join Black networks under the guise of being a straight man . The women, in turn, have a child by him and set themselves up to be well taken care of even after divorce. The men are free to come out after this tirade, with their man bags, shiny lips, waist erasers…to make that booty poke out, and whole body waxes. And all of those things are fine if that how you roll. But that doesn’t mean that once you’ve made it, you get to roast sistas because you think you are a Queen.

A perusal of his YouTube videos shows he thinks late blooming men, which he must see himself as… see 2009 photo… are the best because they reach their full potential financially and physically in their late 30s and 40s and can finally attract the type of women they want. But be clear, those men were likely taken care of and coddled by women prior to their come up… and now are too good to consider those women as mates. I call bullshit. A Hermès belt and a rented Bentley on the weekends does not make you the cream of the crop. The hobosexual turned metrosexual is not the move.

Listen… Kevin Samuels and his particular brand of women hatred, telling women they aren’t young enough, attractive enough, or small enough to get a man who makes six figures or more is a certified crime. Especially coming from a man who is espousing this toxic garbage as a means to make himself look and feel better. You can’t be a whole two trying to tell a whole five she isn’t cute enough. Furthermore you can’t mask the fact that the only thing in your closet isn’t Gucci loafers and Tom Ford pants. You are truly telling on yourself beloved.

35 comments

  1. Dee · January 8

    Glad I’m not the only person who thinks he’s gay. Not that it matters but he’s a queen and he’s only going to make dating more difficult for the men and women he mentors.

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    • Andrew · 26 Days Ago

      wtf u need help ur insulting his sexual preferences because hes helping women tf????

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  2. John · January 22

    Highly disagree with this article. The whole point of his show is to help women. Some women want a certain kind of man but don’t take into consideration what they want. A 5’8 man working at KFC w/ a beer belly will never pull Lori Harvey and a women thats a 5 and aged 39 will never pull a hvm. Its just that simple. Men like what they like. And Black women need to stop being selfish and start being realistic.

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    • karyn deshields · February 27

      If you aren’t a Black woman you should refrain from telling us who and what we should be. Thanks.

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  3. Pam · January 27

    I just watched his videos and came to EXACT same conclusion as your article states. Women haters are getting entirely too much attention 🙄

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    • Andrew · 26 Days Ago

      hes not a women hater hes trying to help women who hate men but they have no argument whether why and if some have a valid argument he shuts that shit down with a valid argument

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      • karyn deshields · 21 Days Ago

        He definitely hates women he believes are not attractive. It is not hating a man to have standards.

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  4. Tom Jenkins · January 28

    So I’m what he THINKS he refers to as a “high value man”, but the twist is….he’s absolutely delusional and out of his league with his rhetoric of what he believes that is, and I am totally disgusted with his interpretation of what he thinks highly educated, wealthy and successful men like myself think of women, especially our beautiful black queens. He is the problem…steer clear away from his ‘advice’ ladies and especially men, he is not qualified nor is he skilled at anything except on how to get divorced….twice…allegedly!

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  5. Candice Johnson · February 2

    If the woman rates herself a 5…why y’all mad that he called her average… he just presented her words back to her

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    • karyn deshields · February 27

      Not mad at being average. Not mad, just disturbed that he thinks he is some expert on what makes a woman desirable.

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  6. King · February 3

    The author must be single as a dollar bill…

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    • karyn deshields · February 27

      Ohhhhh you make this too easy. So, first, that’s a cute attempt at a diss, but being single is not negative. I won’t allow you to give ANY woman the impression that it is on my watch. So let me school you on the art of clowning a mofo.
      Being a weak ass man who feels the need to put down a woman’s assumed relationship status when he is clearly the President of the HAN Foundation … that’s NEVER what’s hot tho! Any man with any good sense would recognize that what you just read, agree or disagree, is Queen $hit! Queens tend to have… in no particular order… stock options, a pristine pocketbook (thats coochie not Coach), plaques on our wall, and BOSS underneath our name… real dope girl shit! Women most men covet. Let him find out she’s single… its on. But you, you shun that prize. Cute.
      Most men who have time to put down women, hate women. Men who adore and love women, tend to stand up in that proudly. Bring that hate shit around here, get shitted on. Period.
      Anyway, my time is up, I got other more pressing issues to tend to, but my man said he’d gladly continue this conversation with you.

      Imagine… a clown calling himself King.

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      • ashely webster · 26 Days Ago

        ok first of all ur names karen for a reason and second of all im a women and i have the same opininon and if u get mad that i made fun of ur name u made fun of this guys name so wtf and this guys name is just a name u didnt have to make fun of his name or call him names karen

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      • karyn deshields · 21 Days Ago

        Who tf are you and why are you trolling my blog. Don’t like what I write… don’t read it. And my name is Karyn because my mother named me that and you can kick rocks for making any other insinuation. You are a woman, I’m glad you know your sex… but you don’t know shit about me, commas, or periods. Any woman that agrees with this man putting down women based on age and having children and his opinion of their looks is a) not the kind of woman I write for and b) not the kind of woman whose opinions I consider. So in the future, if you want to get educated, just know I’m the professor and you, my dear, ain’t even on the waitlist in my class.

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  7. Val · February 7

    You sound like a PhD.

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  8. Elle · February 14

    I picked up on his ‘closet contents’ the first/last/ only time I saw him on YouTube. It’s clear that he hates black women because he’s not one.
    #Don’tHateMeBecauseYouAintMe

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  9. kyle morton · February 15

    Wow the KS hate is real…saying is true, ” …if you don’t have haters you ain’t trying hard enuff”

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  10. kyle morton · February 15

    Wow, the hate for KS is real. Ol sayin is true, ” …if u don’t have haters, you ain’t trying hard enuff.”

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    • karyn deshields · February 27

      He hates women so I hate him. He should get a penis and leave women alone.

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      • Sarah · 25 Days Ago

        Yall dont say this to Steve Harvey tho. All he saying is to be the best version of yourself. If you want a man of certain values what are you as a woman bringing to the table as well.

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      • karyn deshields · 21 Days Ago

        Who is ya’ll?

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      • darkj · 19 Days Ago

        LOL @ Karyn….the old angry masculine black woman alert! he doesn’t hate women he’s just letting obese, masculine, multiple babies by multiple men overly educated delusional black women know that what they are doing is not working. Its funny how black women think they are the only race-gender of people on the planet who are above critique…..TFOH!

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      • karyn deshields · 11 Days Ago

        LOL @darkj… an idiot.

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      • John ikeson · 18 Days Ago

        Lol you’re really pulling the “he must be gay” card? If you’re so “confident” in your views you should call into his show and have a public conversation with him. That would seem like a better approach for a “strong black queen” such as yourself instead of this cowardly route of gay shaming on a random blog post.

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      • karyn deshields · 11 Days Ago

        I am not gay shaming, stop it!

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  11. Lawrence · February 16

    A woman telling women what men want.
    This is the problem, you don’t know what you are talking about.
    His delivery may be frank, but it is the truth.
    Deal with it.

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    • karyn deshields · February 27

      Oh I know what I’m talking about. I’m not telling women what men want, I’m telling women that REAL men want REAL women. You deal with what you read or … don’t read it. FOH

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  12. Kiiii · February 24

    It doesn’t matter, BUT! The man is clearly gay. Take a long hard look and a long hard listen. The fact that straight men actually listen to him is hilarious. 2 failed marriages. The women that seek advice from him know he’s gay as well because no woman would allow a straight man to talk to her the way he does. Think about it…….

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  13. Bella · February 25

    This is a whole mic drop. There is nothing left to say.

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  14. Jonathan Hudson · March 21

    Just had the displeasure of finding out about this poster train wreck yesterday. Your article is bomb and your replies to people in deny are on point, but you knew that and I’m just trying to let the others know what’s up. Based on the language that embarrassing hiccup of a male uses, I would be hvm and I can’t stand the fact that he encourages people to assign a value to others in such shallow ways. Being in a relationship for a decade has taught me that love only cares about what you put into it and money is not one of those things. If there is anyone that thinks that guy knows anything than I would like to point out that you have a problem making proper judgements and should probably handle that issue before you get into anything risky where your poor judgement might actually affect you.

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  15. Yes Queen · 8 Days Ago

    My female cousin actually had the blackacity to tell me to listen to this clown and give me relationship advice. I am a size 10, pursuing a Phd, 40, 1 grown daughter and have had the rich and famous ask me out on dates including members from Goodie Mob, music producers of A list stars, corporate big wigs, and basketball players of all races. I am currently in a great relationship with a wonderful white man who treats me like a Queen with respect and love and it’s mutual. He has no children, never married, wants to get married, 10 years younger than me, making six figures. While my cuzzo has been pining away on a loser man who hasn’t asked her to marry him in the past 15 years. I listened to Bobo the Clown for three minutes and felt as if a demon was talking. I don’t care about his sexuality but he is down low, narcissistic, obnoxious, cruel, and just an all around jerk. Anyone who listens to this idiot hates and blames black women for the world’s problems including my cousin. Thank you for posting this article against this pathetic male humanoid and hopefully more men and women will break away from this toxic relationship wannabe expert. He is nothing but a two cent penny in a five cent suit.

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